‘Diet’ such a cliché word. Some read it and see/ think restriction, others low carb or fat, and still others may see boring. I am trying to move away from all these perceptions. I have been working on building a better mindset for myself these last few months, so from now on when I see or think of the word ‘diet’ I am going to say the word ‘balance’ out loud. Ultimately, balance is a word I want to be able to use to describe all aspects of my life but for now I am going to continue to work on diet.
Honestly, food and I have a love hate relationship. In the sense that I love food, I love baking, eating, and enjoying meals with friends, but also I can be obsessive over it. Thinking about how much I should/should not be consuming, when I should be consuming it, and what is the quality of the foods I am eating. Now in a balanced lifestyle these are necessary things to consider, but honestly sometimes I find these thoughts consume me and as of now I am just over it. Over thinking about numbers, amounts, times, and all the rest of it, so here is what I have been doing to work on it.
As I mentioned before I am currently visiting my boyfriend in the lovely state of Tennessee and have been living with him for the last month and a half, meaning we eat almost all our meals together. For me this has been more than a blessing. Honestly, all women should take a lesson from men in the eating department. What I have observed is that he does a few things that I personally fail at 98% of the time…
- He eats only when he is hungry (this means that if he had a big dinner he doesn’t eat dessert or if its lunch time but he ate a late breakfast he waits until he is hungry) Well lets get one thing straight, I never, ever skip dessert. In fact I live for dessert, I would skip dinner before skipping dessert and in all honesty when I worked that high stress job, I did this probably 3-4 times a week, terrible but true! So again while skipping dessert is NOT something that is going to happen maybe if I am truly full I can just scale it down in size, otherwise I am working on eating only when I am hungry
- He eats what he is craving. He never asks me to go light on the cheese or to hold the olive oil. He eats what he likes and then is done with it. Again so simple, but sometimes I find I will scale back on things because I don’t want to have too much sugar, fat, or calories but in return this usually backfires and I am searching for something else to eat an hour later. So, goal number two, eat what your craving
- He drinks water all day long. My boyfriend probably drinks a gallon of water a day! He is always hydrated, always has his water bottle with him at work, at his desk, and at the dinner table. I have never seen him drink anything other than milk in his cereal when at home and the occasional beer when we are out. Then there is me who could live off coffee, bad but true. So note to self one cup of coffee to every three cups of water.
- He does not obsess, worry about food. He eats at meals, has a snack in the afternoon, and maybe one at night if he is hungry but other than during those meal times I do not think the kid ever thinks or worries about food. He doesn’t look at websites for something to bake or cook tomorrow or daydream about meals. Well lets be real, I will always be searching for something new to bake and will always think about food because I truly love it and being creative with it, but I can work on not obsessing over it because really that’s where the hate part of the love hate relationship really comes in for me!
So that how I am working on creating a healthier relationship with food. Is it fool proof, hardly. Is it anything we have not been told to do before, of course not? Is it easy…not for me! Is it a start, yea I think so…
Question- How do you balance your relationship with food to keep a healthy mindset?